30 Day Self-Love Challenge: The Ultimate Love Yourself List

Before we get into the details of this 30-day self-love challenge I want to say that I’m so happy you’re here looking for new ways to practice self-love.

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Discovering different ways to love yourself helps balance your busy life and brings more contentment to your day-to-day.

So, thank you for being here and prioritizing you xo

Now, let’s talk about this amazing 30-day self-love challenge!

What is This Self Love Challenge & How Does it Work?

This 30-day self-love challenge was created to help you be accountable to yourself.

We all know practicing self-love is a good thing, but life moves quickly and if you’re not intentional about loving yourself, you might just forget.

This self-love challenge does a few things:

  1. Helps you discover new ways to practice self love
  2. It enables you to decide when you want to do each self-love activity. Please try them in any order you choose.
  3. This self-love challenge will give you a new outlook on your life – and you will feel darn proud of yourself too!

30 Day Self Love Challenge: The Ultimate Love Yourself List

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#1.  Practice Self-Love Affirmations

Practicing self-love affirmations is a powerful way to bring positive thoughts about yourself to the forefront of your mind.

Affirmations can also help boost your confidence by changing your inner dialogue about yourself and let’s face it, affirmations just feel really good!

Here are some examples you can try:

  • I am strong
  • I can do this
  • I am a gift
  • I love myself and deserve happiness
  • My unique qualities make me beautiful

Related Reading: 25 Positive Self Love Affirmations + PDF Worksheets

#2. Have Some Feel Good Time

Do something for 30 minutes that makes you feel good.

I have a friend who does this every Friday morning with a dance party before she starts work! She puts on her fave radio show and literally gets her groove on, and she doesn’t let anyone interrupt her.

Think about what your feel-good time can be.

#3. Writing Prompts

So many people use journaling as a helpful tool in their daily lives and this can absolutely be used to practice self-love too.

Try using some self-love journal prompts to support your emotional wellbeing.

Some examples you can use:

  • I am worthy of happiness because…
  • List 10 little things that make you happy
  • Write about a happy moment in your life

Check out this Self Love Journal with 30 days of writing prompts…

Love Yourself First Daily Guided Journal

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#4. Practice Saying No

Do you have people in your life who are constantly asking you to do things, yet they may not be there for you? These are the perfect people to practice saying no to.

Learning when and how to say no can be an art and getting in the practice of this is one of the top ways you can practice self-love.

Give it a try and see how it feels for you.

#5. Get Physical

Whether you’re someone who’s active on a daily basis or someone who wants to get more active, try something new today that physically works your body.

Stretch, walk, dance, skip rope, lift weights, bike, hike, ice skate, swim.

#6. Create a Relaxing Bedtime Routine

Create a relaxing bedtime routine for yourself with no screens 30 mins before bed.

Focus on adding things to your routine that will help you relax (reading, bath, or journaling) and also will make your morning a little easier (meal prep, writing a to-do list).

30 Day Self-Love Challenge: Day 6 – Create a new (relaxing) bedtime routine #selflovechallenge Share on X

#7. Try a New Activity or Hobby

Been wanting to try a new hobby or activity? Today is the day!

There are so many hobbies you can try, so if one has been on your mind, get started.

#8. Ask for Help

Ask for help, with anything that will make your day-to-day easier.

This might be asking your spouse, kids, colleague or friend. To make it easier think about jobs you do that others should really be helping you with.

#9. Go on a Date with Yourself!

This is my ultimate way to spend much-needed ‘me time’.

Going on a date with yourself doesn’t mean things you have to do (like groceries, or driving to pick your kid up).

Dating yourself is intentionally making plans to do something meaningful and fun…

Coffee & a walk, a movie, wine & dinner, whatever you like!

Related: The Art of Dating Yourself + 10 Self Date Ideas

#10. Write a List of 10 Things You Love About Yourself.

Think big and small on this one and make sure to think about all aspects of your life.

Here’s an example list:

I love that I’m: Goofy, creative, tall, a tea fanatic, open-minded, caring, sensitive, accepting, accountable, curious.

Now it’s your turn! Feel free to share this one in the comments – I’d love to know what you love about yourself 🙂

#11. Practice Self-Care

You can do this in a few ways. 

  1. Dedicate a day or part of a day to self-care (get some ideas from this Self Care Sunday post)
  2. Do one self-care activity that you really need right now

It could be having a bubble bath with essential oils, seeing a friend, writing in your journal, or reading a book.

Choose something that feels great for you.

Related: Take the 30-Day Self-Care Challenge

Self Care Challenge: Day 12 – Prioritize Yourself

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Think about what you need to do for yourself.

Perhaps it’s getting a good night’s sleep or having some much-needed alone time.

It might be that you need some quality time with your friends.

Whatever you need, do it for yourself today.

#13. Treat Yourself to Something Small

Yes, you can practice self-love without spending money, but sometimes it feels nice to treat yourself to a little something.

Some examples:

  • new book
  • bubble bath
  • flowers
  • chocolate cake
  • new lipstick

#14. Create a “Feel Better” List

Create a go-to list of small things you can do when stressed, so you can feel better.

The idea here is to have this list on hand, so when you really need to find a way to relax or feel better, look at your list and do one or a handful of things from the list.

Some examples might be: Go for a 10-minute walk, drink tea, call your best friend, water your plants.

Example: Just the other day I received some news that was really hard for me. I instantly felt low and the tears started flowing.

So, I forced myself to get up, grab my pup an go on a long walk. Yes, I was still upset while walking, but it did help me focus on being on the present moment and really think about my feelings.

Related: Do You Have a Feel Better Routine? Here’s How to Get One…

#15. Track Your Mood

There are so many benefits to tracking your mood. It’s a wonderful way to look after your mental health, but also to take notice of triggers and activities that make you feel good, or not so good.

Some mood tracking resources to get you started:

#16. Celebrate Your Wins

Let’s celebrate how awesome you are!

Make a list of everything you’re proud of. When writing your list think of small and big things, and also think about wins that pertain to various parts of your life.

Then think of some ways you can reward yourself to celebrate YOU! Find inspiration here: 9 Fun Ways To Celebrate Yourself

Practicing self-love means loving yourself first.

#17. Connect With People You Enjoy Being Around

You know those individuals in your life that make you laugh and feel loved? Those people you can be your true self around?

Well, this self-love challenge is about connecting with them.

Reach out and call, or plan to get together and do something you both love.

#18. Embrace The Simple Pleasures in Your Life

We all know that the little things in life really do add up.

Spend some time today thinking about the little things that bring you joy.

Check out this big list of simple pleasures written for each of your 5 senses. Have a read and then write your own list!

#19. Follow Your Heart and Mind

This one is all about your intuition… what your gut is telling you.

If you have a decision you need to make, trust yourself and stand by your decision.

#20. Feed Your Body What it Needs Today

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Listening to the queues our body gives us and responding to them is a great way you can love yourself more.

Whether it’s emotionally, physically or spiritually – ask yourself what you need, what you are craving right now.

Self-Love Challenge: Day 21 – Focus on Gratitude

There is a saying I love…

It’s not happiness that brings us gratitude, it’s gratitude that brings us happiness.

This really is true.

When you take notice of the blessings in your life you’ll find that there is a lot to be grateful for.

Some ways you can practice gratitude:

  • List 5 things you are grateful for in your life – write it down now!
  • Check out my gratitude journal with 52 writing prompts, now available on Amazon
  • Express gratitude to your loved ones
  • Look for gratitude in your everyday. There are things all around you that you can choose to appreciate.

Related: Take the 30 Days of Gratitude Challenge

#22. Love Your Body

This can be difficult, as no matter what you or I look like, as women we are always hard on ourselves.

This is a bad habit most of us have so wouldn’t it be wonderful if we can allocate time to thinking positively about our bodies?

Try this…

  • Write down everything you love about your physical self
  • Stand in the mirror naked (I dare you) and say out loud what is beautiful about your body

You can celebrate your:

  • Strong calf muscles
  • Freckled face
  • Broad shoulders
  • Cute feet
  • Long legs
  • Thick hair
  • Curvy hips

Women are beautiful beings, so try this exercise out and see if there is anything new you discover that you love.

#SelfLoveChallenge: Day 22 – Share what you love about your body… Share on X

#23. Be Kind to Yourself

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There are so many ways you can practice being kind to yourself. Here are some examples:

  • Don’t be hard on yourself for circumstances that didn’t work out
  • Celebrate losses, as these build character and ultimately bring you closer to success
  • Nourish yourself with healthy food, love and relaxation
  • Embrace your imperfections as being a perfectionist is unhealthy for your overall wellbeing
  • Find time to do what you love

#24. Prioritize Downtime So You Can Relax

Try blocking some time in your calendar so you will actually stick to it.

Or, use one of these other ideas (practice saying no), so you can say yes to yourself instead.

Related: No Time for Self Care? Try This…

#25. Create a Mindful Morning Routine

Start your day off with the perfect mindful morning routine.

Being mindful in the morning is about being intentional with your time as well as being present in the moment.

Do something that will help you start your day off on the right foot.

Check out this article for some mindful morning exercises you can try.

#26. Write a Love Letter To Yourself!

You might think this sounds cheesy, but I want you to do it anyway.

When you write your love letter you’ll feel good and the best part is you have it there when you need a pick me up later.

If I was writing a letter to myself, I’d start it as…

Dear Yolanda,

Have I ever mentioned how awesome you are?!!


Okay – that first line will get me laughing and that is kinda the point! You don’t need to be serious, but do write something that will make you feel great.

#27. Wear an Outfit That Makes You Feel Great

If you work from home as I do, you might be really bad at this. So, pull out an outfit, article of clothing or a favourite accessory and enjoy wearing it.

If you go out to work, you’re probably wearing more clothes you enjoy, but we can still get into the habit of wearing the same thing all the time.

So, put on a bracelet you enjoy wearing, a great pair of boots or wear that jacket you usually keep for special occasions.

#28. Make Your Favourite Recipe

Depending on your situation you may always be cooking for others and this means you’re not making what you always like. Yes, you’re just trying to make everyone happy as best you can.

If you do a lot of cooking, you absolutely deserve to make YOUR favourite dish, so go for it and enjoy every bite.

If you don’t cook, maybe you can convince a loved one to treat you!

#29. Watch an Old Movie You Loved as a Kid

Watching an old movie is a great way to bring some nostalgia into your life.

In fact, nostalgia has been proven to improve your health and well-being.

According to Dr. Clay Routledge, Social Psychologist and Associate Professor of Psychology…

Nostalgia increases positive mood, self-esteem, feelings of social connectedness, optimism about the future, and perceptions of meaning in life.

So grab a movie you remember loving and watch it from start to finish.

I’d love to know: What is one of your favourite childhood movies? Share in the comments below1!

(Mine is Grease and The Sound of Music) 🙂

#30. Communicate What You Need in a Relationship

Loving yourself also means making sure you are happy in your relationships.

Whether it’s a spouse, sibling, friend or parent take some time to think about what you need to be happy.

Share this with your spouse, friend or family member. 

Tips for Starting Your Self Love Challenge

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Remember the following:

  • This is not a competition – you do not have to be perfect
  • If it takes you longer than 30 days to complete this, so be it! You can take as long as you need
  • Use these self-love challenge ideas, but also create your own
  • Take note of the self-love activities that you love most and make sure to do them again (and again)!
  • Try and be present in the moment when you’re practicing self-love – it will feel that much better and make a bigger impact
  • Enjoy loving yourself and looking after you

What’s Your Favourite Way to Practice Self Love?

Share in the comments section below to inspire others!

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  1. This is a great list! I especially resonate with numbers 17 and 18, spending time with people you care about and embracing simple pleasures in life

    1. Hi Deirdre, Thanks for your note! I love those ones too and I hope you get to experience them soon! xo

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