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  1. I always have the best time by myself. Solodates are so important to get to know yourself and your own preferences as well! Besides, if you always wait for someone to do things with you, some things might never happen! My favorites are definitely breakfast and coffee dates with myself and my journal or a book. Absolutely indulgent!

  2. Love this post! I have always felt anxious about doing things by myself, but lately I’ve become more confident in being in my own company. And I would definitely agree that both reading and cooking is a great way to spend time alone. Thanks for sharing this great post.

  3. Hey, i loved your article i did think about it alot but whenever i think about it i feel like it would be boring, i can hang out and have lunch with and shopping 😊😍 but I’m a little bit afraid to go to movie or go on a picnic because in my country/egypt there is alot of abusers everywhere even my friends made fun of me when i told one tgat i hang out alone do you think there is something i need to do to help me more to have more courage and go on a self date??

  4. Lase Sharon Bramwell says:

    Beautiful article. I have been doing a few you mentioned, but am going to do the Spa Day and Movies for sure, a lot more now. Thanks.

    Sharon.

    1. That’s amazing that you do the solo date thing! Isn’t it the best self care time?!

  5. Thanks for writing this, I loved this post. Dating yourself is soooo important.
    I write a blog about single life, and I truly believe that it is the best life, and to be happy you have to love yourself and feel comfortable in your own company!

  6. Such great ideas and perfect for someone who has moved to a new area alone.

    1. Thanks so much Ingra!

  7. I love the concept of dating myself, and being an introvert-ambivert, I prefer going on dates by myself. From the list you shared, I would love to go on every date here! πŸ™‚

    1. Hi Shilpa! Oh yes – dating yourself is so much fun and absolutely needed! Glad you love all the date ideas and hope you get to do them all!

  8. Love love your suggestions! I’ve been dating myself quite a few times, especially when I was an international student, though sometimes it feels daunting. The most daring self-date I ever did was to go to a concert alone. I’ve also started to go to conferences alone, especially because I love these and I learn so much.

    1. Hi Daphnee! I love that you went to a concert on your own! I need to do that. I hope it was an amazing experience. Conferences are also great to go to alone – that way you can focus on attending what you want πŸ™‚

    2. I love this article. Taking myself out on a date can be the best time.

      1. Hi Angela, It’s my absolute favourite thing to do as well! Enjoy πŸ™‚

  9. I’ve done a few of these over the years but my particular favourite is going to the cinema. I always seem to get much more engrossed in the film when I’m on my own. I once went to the theatre on my own to see Wicked. It was a matinee on a Wednesday and felt quite decadent! I also took myself shopping and for lunch before πŸ™‚

    1. Theatre and lunch on your own sounds fantastic! I need to do that too. What a real treat to yourself πŸ™‚

  10. Number 3 is my favourite. I do it all the time and it helps me grow as a person and learn something cool! Definitely worthy of mention!

    1. Nice! It’s always so rewarding to learn something new. It can get your passion for life way up! Thanks for the note Rosemary!!

  11. I absolutely love solo dates. These are some amazing ideas. I like to call them “solitude holiday” where I’ll go on walks in nature. Forest bathing is another term people use to spend time in a forest and connect with nature. Thanks for such an inspiring post, Yridley.

    1. Hi Prakhar – I’m so happy you enjoyed the post. It’s something I live by! I love the term solitude holiday as well πŸ™‚ Thanks for the message – hope you get to have a solitude holiday this weekend!!

  12. Such a great idea to make it a priority. I am definitely going to be more aware of scheduling time in my planner to have a time blocked out to β€œdate myself”.

    1. That is actually the best thing to do. Dedicate the time and then it’s so much easier to make it happen. Enjoy!

  13. All of your ideas are excellent . I will definitely try. Because I never do anything for me that much. But now I feel I should.

    1. Hi Fatiha! You absolutely should treat yourself and do things that make you feel good. It’s so important πŸ™‚ How about putting your self date in your calendar and sticking to it! I hope you do and you enjoy yourself πŸ™‚

  14. The Alchemist is one of my favorite too! I’ll try the museum and lunch, sounds fun.

    1. What good choice you have in books!! Enjoy! I hope you do get to the museum πŸ™‚

  15. I started dating myself after a bad break up. I began by going to dinner and the movies by myself. I went monthly. And it wasn’t until the 7th or 8th month that I found myself outright laughing in the middle of a movie and realized I was just enjoying it for me. That I wasn’t looking around for someone to share the moment with. I knew at that moment I was going to be okay.

    Now I go to art galleries and museums and community events by myself. And enjoy my own company in a way I never thought I could.

    1. Hi Sandra – Thanks so much for your story. I think so many of us can learn from this. Even if we don’t realize it at first, learning to love spending quality time on our own is so healing. I’m glad to hear that you’ve kept it up too!

  16. I hate to admit this, but even though I have been married for 30 years, I date myself all the time! There are times when I go down a rabbit hole, exploring cool new ideas online that may not be business related, but that just interest me. As far as I am concerned, that’s one of the most fun things to do. I don’t wait for anyone else’s permission and sometimes they have no idea that I was just having a ball with myself. Thanks for sharing how important that me time really is.

    1. You are doing it right!! So many people don’t spend quality time alone and as you know it’s such an important way to have balance and enjoyment πŸ™‚

  17. Great ideas! This is something that I have to do. And, I already have my favorites: the bookstore and the movies! Thank you πŸ™‚

    1. Hi Lynelle! Thanks πŸ™‚ I hope you take yourself on a date soon!

  18. I have watched sunset from a nearby park alone and have taken numerous walks alone. Not till now have I figured out that I can call it dating myself.
    I have always planned to go to a cafe alone and spend some time with myself. After reading your article, I feel like doing it sooner. It was a nice read. Thanks!

    1. Thanks so much for writing πŸ™‚ I’m so happy you enjoyed the post and that you are taking time to enjoy what you love! Spending quality time alone can be so therapeutic. Keep it up xo

  19. I love this post! I loooove bookstores and I actually prefer visiting them alone. I also love cooking and sometimes there is nothing like cooking yourself a nice dinner with a glass (or two haha) of wine! I am lucky enough that my mom raised me to be fine being alone, so most of the things on your list are things that I practiced all through my 20s! I think be able to enjoy your own company is so amazing. Everyone should do it. Thanks for sharing!
    xo Chelsea | https://completelychelsea.com

    1. Awe thanks so much Chelsea! I love that you are constantly dating yourself!! It’s the best. I definitely love making myself a beautiful dinner with wine too πŸ™‚ Appreciating good quality alone time is so important for balance. Thanks so much for the kind words! xo

  20. Love this post! So many great ideas! As women, I feel like we often times don’t prioritize self-love and care!

    1. Thanks Ashley! I agree – us women are constantly looking after other people so going on a date with yourself is honestly the best form of self care!

  21. Great list. I’ve done a few of these but haven’t yet eaten by myself at a proper restaurant. lol… But will soon!

  22. Oh I just love this idea and it never occurred to me. Rally want to try going to the movies by myself. Sometimes I find my husband or my friends/family don’t have the enthusiasm for the things I would like to do…so why not make a date with myself and just do it. I was wanting to do a paint night (which I really enjoy). Thank you for the post.

    1. Hi Kim! Thanks so much for the note. It’s so true, I think we should still do things even if people aren’t interested. There is something empowering about discovering things on your own. I believe it’s one of the things that truly brings you happiness. Go buy a movie ticket and watch something only you would love πŸ™‚ All the best!

  23. I was searching on Pinterest and came upon your blog! I can’t remember when I thought about myself and caring for myself. I already take walks and go to the bookstore, but always in a hurry never taking the time to enjoy the moment. Dating myself sounds like a plan!

    Thank you,
    Adelaide

  24. This is great. I love the idea of dating yourself. I have gone to the movie by myself a few times, and while I get nervous because I’m usually the only person there without friends or family with them, once the movie starts I really enjoy myself. I need to do it more often for sure.

    1. Hi Sarah! Thanks for the note πŸ™‚ I think when you take yourself out on a date, it can take a little while to get used to it! Remember, it’s about making you happy. That’s great that you’ve already tried it. Take care!

  25. This is a timely read for me. I’m feeling a bit frazzled after some long days of looking after the kids and all of these sound great. Think I need to schedule in a me date. Thank you!

    1. It’s the perfect time πŸ™‚ See if you can get coverage for someone to be with the kids, and put your me date in the calendar. I hope you get to do it soon!

  26. Loved the article and I saved it to my Pinterest board under self-care. Thank you for writing it!

    1. Thanks so much Tanya. I hope it gave you some great ideas on ways to spend some good quality time with yourself πŸ™‚

  27. Awesome post I’ve been thinking of going to the movies but I got there too late last week to see it. Will def do the picnic – I never thought of that and I will try the book and cafe maybe I can do that tomorrow its a holiday. I’ve been going to the mall taking myself to dinner and going to bookstores buying notebooks so far for my dates your post gave me some fresh ideas thanks much!!

    1. Hi Jiselle! I love that you are already taking yourself out on dates! It’s so good for the soul to spend quality time with yourself πŸ™‚ Glad to hear you’re going to try a few new dates too. Have fun!

  28. I love dating myself πŸ˜‰ I know some people get weird about doing stuff alone, but I’ll go to the movies or out to a restaurant by myself. I take solo vacations too and it’s great!

  29. I love this post so much. I’m definitely guilty of never letting myself relax, but since certain health issues of mine have been worsening, I have been making a point of putting in more time for self care. I don’t like to go out so a lot of these date ideas aren’t my cup of tea, but an actual cup of tea IS! If I’m feeling like I deserve a night of relaxation, I brew a cup of tea, chuck on a face mask and get lost in a book. It’s magical, and I always feel so much better afterwards!

    1. Thanks so much Indya πŸ™‚ Nice to see you are a fellow tea lover! Having a date with yourself at home is amazing too. I need to pick up some face masks to make it that much better. Sounds lovely!!

  30. These are great ideas! I’m going to have to figure out what dates I’d like to go on by myself.

  31. For the first time in a long time I went on a date with myself today. I went to the canal in my area sat outside while the wind blew, out my feet up to read a book and had a nice little lunch. To top it off I came home and took a nice hot bath and now I am relaxing for the night and I am ready to take on the week.

    1. Amazing! That sounds like the perfect Sunday. You must feel so good that you treated yourself extra special today. Nice one!!

  32. Karen Wooten says:

    Hi
    Great read. Really good list. I already do a few of these on a regular basis. But, I definitely have a few more things that I would like to try, that I’ve been waiting to do with others. I just might have to do a few of them on my own :).

    1. Hi Karen! Thanks for the note πŸ™‚ Definitely go for it! You may actually find that you’ll enjoy them more if you go them on your own!

  33. Yess! We must love ourselves as we are the only ones that are with us allllll the time. i wouldn’t want to spend my time with someone who doesn’t like me, so if I don’t like me, then I would make some changes!
    Great ideas!

    xx

    1. You are definitely thinking about self love in the right way! We must like and love ourselves first and make it a priority! Thanks for the note Diana πŸ™‚

  34. Marjie Mare says:

    These are wonderful tips to spend quality time on our own. My mom always teases me when I told her I am having dinner with myself. I set up my table, put flowers, music, and dine alone. It happens rarely, but it’s absolutely wonderful time with myself.

    1. Hi Marjie! It sounds like you are doing dinner right! You should suggest to your mom to give it a try. I’m sure she’ll love it too! I know I do!!

    1. Hey Marissa! Good plan – why not try both?!

  35. I must say I have never gone on a date with myself, in fact I’ve never even thought about it. The picnic and Spa day sound heavenly to me!! Thanks for sharing these wonderful ideas πŸ™‚

    1. Hi Juanita πŸ™‚ Well, I’m happy I’ve put the idea into your mind now. It’s such a treat. As long as you’re doing something YOU love it’s win win! Now go out and have that picnic and spa day!!!

  36. this is just beautiful. I need more of your ideas in my life. =)

    1. Awe, thanks so much Dani!! So happy you love the idea πŸ™‚

  37. So many great ideas here. I’ve been loving going to a cafe by myself lately πŸ˜€ After trying it I realize being on my own can be so fun. I don’t need to rush and just enjoy the time to myself. I think I will try cooking class and spa next! <3

    1. I really enjoy alone time in a cafe too – just taking life in slowly πŸ™‚ The simple things in life can be so powerful and needed.

    1. Hi Laura! Yes, the 2nd Jen Sincero book about money is so interesting. It talks about how our thoughts on money could actually be setting us back from obtaining it properly. Great perspective and lots of good tasks to complete throughout the book πŸ™‚

  38. Stephanie Ramirez says:

    I would do this. I love this list!.. I usually go to the movies, shopping, get my nails done or go to the beach! I love spending time with myself as you get to know yourself a little more. πŸ˜€
    Thanks for sharing

    1. We are on the same page for sure. It’s SO important and such good quality time. Thanks for the note Stephanie!

  39. I absolutely love this! I am single and was always hesitant to do things by myself. Once I began “dating” myself, I fell in love with it. I truly believe this is so important whether you are single or in a relationship. This gives you time to fall in love with yourself and really continue to get to know yourself. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Hi Daniele, I couldn’t agree more. Once you get used to doing things on your own, you’ll want to spend way more QUALITY time with yourself. It is so therapeutic!

  40. I love the idea of a self date! as a mom to twins I feel like I never make time for myself, but I think I just might try for later this week πŸ™‚

    1. I can imagine it would be hard to find time for you – but even if you only have 30 minutes free, try and do something you love. It’ll be so worth it πŸ™‚

  41. Bookstore date with myself?! It’s like you know me ^^. That’s one of my faves. Sometimes just some candles, a hot bath and a good book (surprise) are the best too. I love this! Self love is everything β™‘

    1. Ha! Excellent πŸ™‚ Self love sure is everything. Bookstore dates are amazing even if you don’t plan on buying anything. It’s just so good being in a bookstore and looking around. Keep up the amazing book dates!

  42. What an awesome and uplifting post. It’s so important to take care of ourselves! I want to do all of these but the cooking class jumped out at me- how fun!

    1. Hi Cayla! Oh yes – taking a cooking class on your own is so fantastic. Definitely give it a try πŸ™‚

  43. #1 sounds like so much fun for a bookworm like me! The Museum idea is GREAT… I’ve been wanting to go to a museum but my plans to go with friends always fall through.. perhaps I’ll muster up the courage to go alone!

    1. Hey Zahra! I think the museum on your own is the best, that way you can take it at your own pace and see the parts you like most. Give it a try and let me know how it went πŸ™‚

  44. This is such a great idea, Yolanda! And I LOVED learning that you took 6 weeks of belly dancing; that’s incredible πŸ™‚ There are a few movies I’ve been meaning to see, but I never go since my husband gigs on the weekends. Perhaps this weekend I’ll just take myself out instead. Thanks for the inspiration!

    1. Hey Paula! Ha – yes, I was a keen belly dancer for years. I still love to belly dance for fun too!! Definitely go to he movies. I find when I wait to go to the movies I end up missing some good ones. What do you want to see?!

    1. Agree – doing a museum on your own is so fantastic! Of course great coffee and a book are always the best!!

  45. This is so true and important. I realize that I need to go and do things that I like and enjoy!

    1. Absolutely! I think everyone needs a little self dating time in their life πŸ™‚

      1. Purvi jain says:

        I did this by going for some shopping alone for me and a movie date alone☺seriously enjoy a lot

        1. Hi Purvi – That sounds like a perfect self date day! Really happy you enjoyed yourself and made the most of alone time.

  46. I love this! Every time my husband takes our kids so that I can have “me time”, I find myself at a loss as far as what to do. Usually I just wander aimlessly down an aisle in a store or try to go sit in a corner and read, but I’ve never really used that time to explore or try new things. Time to break out my old bucket list and make the most out of me time πŸ™‚

    1. Hey Jordan πŸ™‚ That’s great you get to have some alone time. Definitely get that bucket list and start moving through it. Have fun!!

  47. Danny Ridley says:

    Yolanda … l just absolutely love having a music night in alone! If you are feeling a little meloncholy make up a β€˜music list’ of your favourite songs …. l always start with Phil Collins, Something in the air tonight, or Against all odds . I do this about once a month, and I love it! Oh! Don’t forget the wine!!! πŸ·πŸ˜€

    1. We definitely sound like we’re on the same page Danny!! πŸ™‚ Great music always lifts the mood and is a great way to get some good quality alone time xox

  48. This is a fabulous concept and something I haven’t really done. I do like to go the spa on my own though.

    1. Hi Jaclyn! Oh it’s definitely a must. Go book that spa appointment πŸ™‚

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