10 Powerful Ways to Focus on Yourself and Not Others

Finding time to focus on yourself and not others can seem impossible.

We spend so much of our days catering to work, family, chores, to-do lists and so much more that we leave no time for ourselves.

Many of us are living in a never-ending loop (and are quite frankly drowning).

We simply forget that dedicating meaningful time for ourselves is crucial to creating happiness in life.

Understanding how to focus on yourself and why is the first step to maintaining a positive life balance.

If you’ve always asked yourself… “how can I focus on myself instead of others” keep reading for the following tips and resources…

• Learn why focusing on yourself is important
• My go-to tips to focus on yourself and not others
• 10 ways to focus on yourself, with examples of new activities you can try

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Why Focusing on Yourself is So Important

I already mentioned that finding time to focus on you is imperative to happiness and balance, but let’s dig a little deeper.

Benefits of Focusing on Yourself:

• Prevent burnout and exhaustion – this study reports that people feel less exhausted when they treat themselves
• Improve your relationships
• Your needs and wants will be met
• You’ll feel more content on a regular basis
• When tough times happen, you’ll be able to deal with them easier

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Tips To Focus on Yourself and Not Others

Here are some ways to make focusing on yourself easier, especially if you’re used to saying yes to others even when you don’t have the time or headspace.

1. Dedicate Regular ‘Me Time’ in Your Calendar

Physically block time in your calendar for things that matter to you.

Example:

If you would like to go for a mid-day walk, block 30 minutes in your calendar every day – and follow through on actually going for the walk.

This prevents people from booking meetings and appointments with you which means you are taking back your time, even when busy.

2. Focus on 5 Key Areas of Your Life

To find contentment it’s important to focus on different parts of your life. Specifically the following areas:

• Emotional
• Intellectual
• Social
• Spiritual
• Physical

For example, you can focus on different types of self-care in these 5 areas, which helps you look after your mind, body and soul.

3. Get Comfortable with Saying No

In order to create some space in your calendar, you can start to practice saying no. Now, I’m not suggesting you say no to everyone, but you can say no to people or things that don’t serve your happiness.

For example:

if you know someone who always asks for favours and isn’t there for you when you need them, this is a good person to say no when you can.

Tips: How to Say No without Feeling Guilty

4. Be Honest with Yourself

Truly think about what makes you happy, how you can find balance in a way that is unique to your life situation.

Sure, you can do things to focus on yourself, but these activities need to cater to your true self.

This is a little reminder to focus on what brings a smile to your face, not what you think you should be doing.

10 Ways to Focus on Yourself and Not Others

1. Start Practicing Self Love

A great way to practice self-love is with these 30 self-love journal prompts.

This act alone is an enjoyable way to prioritize yourself.

More so, what you learn from these journal prompts will also help you stay on track so you can focus on yourself and not others.

Some examples of the journal prompts…

• I am worthy of happiness because…
• How would your past younger self be proud of who you’ve become today?
• How can you set healthy boundaries in your relationships?

Get all of the journal prompts in the link above or you can get them in my Love Yourself First Daily Guided Journal – now available on Amazon.

2. Create a Mindful Morning Routine

First thing in the morning is a perfect time to devote to starting the day off right.

By creating a mindful morning routine you’ll discover what an impact it can have on how you feel for the rest of the day.

Consider adding a new activity to your morning routine such as journaling, going for a walk or reading.

Even if you only take 15 minutes to do this new activity it will make a substantial difference. Once you get in the habit of this new morning activity you can add a second one in.

Remember, small steps really work when changing your routine for the long term.

3. Work on Your Personal Goals

We all have goals, but when you’re not dedicating time to yourself it can be really hard to make your goals a reality.

Spend some time thinking about a personal goal you’d like to achieve and write it down.

👉 For some inspiration check out this post: 70 Examples of Personal Goals to Set for a Happy Life

Once you choose a goal, practice making it SMART (see details of how to do this in the Personal Goals article linked above).

Then it’s time to commit and follow through on this goal. 

4. Try a New Hobby (or Get Back to an Old One)

Hobbies aren’t old for kids. Yes, it is possible to be an adult, have a job, raise a family and create time for a hobby. It really is.

If starting a new hobby and creating time for a hobby you already love is important to you, it can be done.

Just remember to dedicate the time.

👉 If you’re looking for inspiration on a new hobby or activity check out this ultimate list of hobbies to try.

5. Go on a Date with Yourself

This is my all-time favourite way to focus on myself – and it’s fun too! It might sound silly, but that is part of the charm of dating yourself.

Yes, we go places by ourselves but going on a date with yourself is as it sounds… a walk and coffee shop date, art gallery, wine, flowers and cooking your favourite dinner.

The idea here is to do things that you love. Don’t wait to do them with someone else as not everyone loves what you love. 

6. Prioritize Your Mental Health

After the last couple of years, mental health has (thankfully) been on more people’s radar. Supporting your mental health can be done in so many ways.

Here are some examples:

• See a therapist or social worker if you’re going through a hard time (this can be arranged through your family doctor).
• Track your mood – download this free printable mood tracker that connects your mood to daily activities so you can identify your triggers and understand what makes you feel good.
• Get active – even 15 to 30 minutes of activity a day can get those happy hormones pumping.
• Focus on yourself (yep, just following the steps in this article is a big part of supporting your mental health and emotional wellbeing).

7. Create a Happy Week Focused on Self Care

As mentioned earlier, there are 5 types of self-care that can help you create a balanced life. 

One way you can do this is with these printable Self Care worksheets. They include ideas for each type of self-care, plus a calendar to track them.

You can stick this to your fridge and create a self-care plan that helps you focus on yourself all week long!

8. Incorporate Gratitude Into Your Life

We know it’s important to be grateful, but did you know that practicing gratitude can have so many positive benefits to your health and wellness?

Gratitude can make us feel happier, increase self-esteem, improve psychological well-being, increase optimism, improve our relationships and so much more.

A big part of having an attitude of gratitude is being content with what you already have in life. Doing this will help you see that you actually have a lot to be grateful for.

Helpful Gratitude Resources:

• 52 Week Gratitude Journal – with writing prompts
• Inspiring Gratitude Quotes & Being Thankful Sayings
• 13 Ways to be Grateful for what you have

9. Enjoy Life’s Simple Pleasures

Are you creating space to enjoy the simple pleasures in your daily life?

Whether it’s drinking a steaming cup of tea, enjoying the patter of rain on a spring day or people-watching in the park; these little things can have a big impact on our happiness. 

You can start enjoying some simple pleasures based on your 5 senses (sight, smell, touch, taste and sound).

This is easy to do and it’s really all about taking notice of the little things that bring you joy. 

10. Dedicate Time To Relax

Whether it’s doing nothing, reading a book, having a nap or watching Netflix, make sure you make time for simple relaxation – whatever it looks like for you.

Sometimes it’s even good to feel bored.

With all of our conflicting to-do’s, having regular downtime to just be is so important to your overall well-being. 

Also, please don’t feel guilty about relaxing. We all need it.

How to Focus on Yourself and Be Happy: Time to Commit

You can read all of these tips and get ideas on how you can focus on yourself and not others, but it really just comes down to making a commitment.

Commit to yourself that you will:

• Prioritize your happiness
• Find new ways to look after yourself
• Listen (and respond) to what your mind and body need
• Dedicate time and resources to yourself, even when it seems hard

What does focusing on yourself mean to you?

Grab a notebook or your journal and answer these questions…

• When you focus on yourself (and prioritize yourself), how do you feel? Write down 5 positive emotions.
• If you had more time in your day, what would you do?
• What are 3 ways you can make more time in your day? 

After you think about and answer these questions, promise yourself that you will do one small thing today (tomorrow and the next day) that brings you joy.

Over time, you’ll get into the habit of prioritizing yourself so you can be the creator of your daily happiness.

What do you do to prioritize and focus on yourself?

Share in the comments below to inspire others!

How To Focus On Yourself & Not Others – More Resources:

• 50 Positive Morning Affirmations
• The Benefits of Alone Time + Fun ‘Me Time’ Ideas
• Start this 30-Day Self Love Challenge
• 10 Ways To Stop Being a People Pleaser