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  1. Felicitas says:

    Thank you so much. Every time i would think i am reading about a person just like me i get to the end and they have conceived. So heart broken that i invested my time to only find out that she isn’t like me she doesnt know that she will NEVER have have a child. I deal with it every day and yes there is no “reason” i should be having problems. Thank you for letting me know i am truly not alone.

    1. Thanks so much for writing Felicitas. I too experience this – read articles about infertility to find out that the person has kids. I am a stepmom but have never conceived which is a daily struggle. You are right – you are not alone and I’m sending a massive virtual hug your way. If you ever want to connect further feel free to email me xoxox

  2. Yolanda, I am sorry you have faced this struggle with infertility, it is so good that you are sharing a part of your journey with others. Reading this post, and the comments others have made in reply to it is proof that you are helping many others who are in a similar situation.

  3. Your brave post gives a voice to so many others struggling with infertility!

  4. My first two pregnancies were miscarried and the pain is unbelievable. I thought about writing about it but couldn’t. Thanks for having the courage to talk about this, I know you will help many people in their journey!

  5. Your blog stood out to me in a facebook blogging community today. I’m not sure why. I clicked, and for some reason, I was brought to this page almost instantly.

    I needed to read this right now. My husband and I have been struggling with infertility for 3 years now, and you just described our journey in a way I never would have been able to. Thank you for posting this. <3

    1. Thanks so much for your note Ashley, and that’s great you found this post! Infertility is so insanely hard. I wish you and your husband so much happiness and good luck with everything. When one goes through years of trying to conceive I believe we see the world different, our relationships different and all of our experiences. Sending you a big virtual hug from someone who understands xo

    1. Ugh. Sending you happy, healthy thoughts and payers. xo

  6. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I’m going through secondary infertility over here. I’m so tired of people asking me when we are going to have a second that I just straight up tell them that it’s not working for us. It’s seriously none of their business.

  7. You’re so brave for sharing this – thanks for educating us too, on what to say and not to.
    I don’t think those jokes are funny.

  8. thanks for sharing even though it may be hard. I know what your going through. We tried for 3 years and lost 2 babies in that time. It is a hard ride and takes a strong soul. I hope that one day you will be able to find peace and happiness. You are brave!

  9. I can’t begin to imagine how difficult this process has been for you. Thank you for sharing your experience. I have a friend who also has infertility issues, and I often don’t know what to say or how to react. Your post is very helpful!

  10. Yolanda, I’m very sorry for your struggle. My daughter also suffers infertility and you’re right – it can feel like a dirty word. It’s the thing no one wants to talk about. We’ve tried hard to open some dialog and share the truth, the pain, and the reality of the struggle with others. Innocent words can be so very painful. But when people are made aware of the bigger picture, the load somehow seems lighter. Bless you in your efforts. I pray the Lord will move mightily and bring babies into you lives. <3

  11. Hugs, infertility is HARD! But I don’t have to tell you that. We went through many year of infertility treatments and it all ended when I needed a hysterectomy when I was 29. In a way it was a relief to put those years of doctoring behind us, in another way it crushed me, because a hysterectomy was the end of the road.

  12. This post is so honest and transparent. Thank you for allowing us to see inside your world and for taking us on your journey so we can keep you in our thoughts.

  13. This must be so hard. I can’t even imagine… I just wish you and your husband all the best <3 And it's good to read you are blessed with some people around you who have been really supportive to you. Thank you for sharing.

  14. Thank you for writing this. As I was reading I felt like you were telling my story. We tried for almost 5years. 16 rounds of IUI and 1 round of IVF. We were lucky enough to get pregnant with twins.
    Saying we went through a hard time is a gross understatement.
    Thank you for sharing your story and shedding light on the story of countless others. God Bless.

    1. Hi Natalie, Thanks for sharing. It’s always feels good to know that others have gone through this and understand this crazy experience – and congrats on your miracle babies xo

  15. Thanks for sharing this Yolanda – it’s amazing how therapeutic it can be to share your story xo

    Joanna

    1. Hi Joanna! It definitely felt nice to finally start talking about this road I’ve been on for so long. Thanks so much for your message 🙂

  16. I had no idea you’ve been going through this. 🙁
    Thank you for sharing, sending lots of love.

    Helen xxx

    1. Hey you – we haven’t connected for so long! It’s hard with over 4000 miles between us. Thanks for the note Hels. Next time I’m in England I would love to see you. xoxo

  17. Yolanda – thanks for this insight into your plight and also what life has been like for the past few years. Here’s hoping that someday, somehow you will get a tiny miracle of your own.

    Much love

    Hazel xxx

    1. Thanks Hazel 🙂 xoxo

  18. So proud of you for sharing your heartfelt story, Yolanda!

    1. Thank you 🙂 It feels good to get my feelings out there xo

  19. great article. From someone who has been there…… 8 yrs of trying…… just wanted to put it out there that adoption is not your only option…….. other things to consider..,,,,,, donor eggs and or surrogacy……. I used a surrogate to have my little miracle and it was the best option for us. YES extremely expensive on top of the money i am sure you have already spent……. but definitely worth thinking about and investigating ……… My prayers are with you on your journey to parenthood.

    1. Thanks for your note Nadia and I appreciate your kind words 🙂

  20. Beautiful post, very heartfelt and honest, I admire your courage to talk about this x

    1. Thanks Pheebs. Just talking about this feels like good therapy. The idea of it has always frightened me, but its out there now! xoxo

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