Remember those days in school when we all learned about the birds and the bees? Or think about when you were a teenager and you thought that if you got too close to a guy you could get pregnant?! Many people spend years trying NOT to conceive. So much time is focused on preventing pregnancy that no one ever dreams there might be an issue when they WANT to start trying for a baby.
In today’s world we see women focusing on their career and thinking they have PLENTY of time to have a baby. We see older moms everywhere and assume that when we’re ready, we can take a few months trying and boom – pregnancy!
But what happens when it’s not that easy? What happens when pregnancy doesn’t come?
In most cases women are not told by their doctors that the chances of conceiving dramatically reduce at the age of 35.
According to my fertility doctors and Parents.com “…35 seems to be the point where fertility declines. The most common reason is reduced egg quality, Dr. Pagidas explains. You may have plenty of eggs to work with, but they’re likely to have more chromosomal defects that affect their viability. You’re also at a little greater risk of miscarriage, a down syndrome pregnancy or an abnormal pregnancy.”
Also, according to many sources fertility takes a serious nosedive at age 38.
For all those who plan to have a baby at some point, here’s some critical information for you…
The likelihood of pregnancy by age (% per cycle):
20-25: 25%, (5-10% risk of miscarriage)
26-29: 20% (5-10% risk of miscarriage)
30-34: 15%, (20% risk of miscarriage)
35-39: 10% (25% risk of miscarriage)
40: 5% (33% risk of miscarriage)
At the age of 40 the risk of down syndrome is 1 in 82 births. This significantly increases with each year.
I have not shared the above to scare anyone, but more to educate.
I WISH there was more education to all women about this topic, to prevent the heartache and pain that can come with trying to conceive in your late 30’s.
If we were all aware that fertility takes such a rapid decline at the age of 35, we might be able to put a little more control back in our hands.
So, TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR.
If you’re 35+ and trying to conceive, doctors and fertility clinics recommend you making an appointment if you’ve been trying unsuccessfully for 6 months. If you’re younger they recommend you contacting them after 1 year of trying.
From my experience here are my biggest words of advice and some considerations for you or your loved ones…
If you are single and getting close to 35 – have you thought about freezing your eggs? This may or may not be a good idea for you, but why not educate yourself on the process. It may be the difference between having a baby in the future or not.
I’m sure you know about taking prenatal vitamins, but did you know you can improve your egg quality through other supplements and diet change? The eggs you are releasing today are actually 90 days old. This means that if you are planning to start trying to conceive you should be treating your body like a temple at least 90 days before hand. An extremely informative book that describes this in more detail is called ‘It Starts With The Egg’, by Rebecca Fett. This is a book my naturopaths swear by and plan detailed fertility diet recommendations from.
If you are struggling with infertility, please don’t keep it to yourself. This is SO important. It might seem hard or uncomfortable sharing your struggle, but you will find that those who love you most can be there for you. Many people going through infertility can get severe depression and anxiety, so with any other illness you need your loved ones close, to help you get through it.
Please share this article with those who are thinking of having a baby. If the education about infertility and the struggle to conceive in your 30’s was more commonly known, less women would have to go through years of trying to conceive and expensive/invasive medical procedures.
Note: The above information is from my own experience with infertility. I am by no means an official expert (although I feel like one at times!), so if you are struggling please get your doctor to put you in contact with a fertility specialist.
INFERTILITY RESOURCES… MY RECOMMENDATIONS:
YOU MAY ALSO LIKE:
This post may contain affiliate links. Disclosure here.