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  1. Happy Anniversary! These are so smart, sure to make any relationship better.

  2. When my kids were small, monthly date nights went by the wayside. Now that they’re getting older, we make them a priority. That alone time to connect without other distractions is so important. It feels like when we were dating!

    1. That’s so good to hear 🙂 I love that it feels like when you first started dating!

  3. Ruth Ridley says:

    The daily connect has been super important for my husband and I! This is so good!!

  4. I just got married last weekend so I feel like you wrote this post just for me (; Even though my husband and I lived together for three years before we were married I know I will need to focus on really being mindful to have a healthy and happy relationship. I love the idea of quarterly check ins in edition to things like date nights. Sometimes important conversations can slip through the cracks!

    1. Congratulations Jordyn! I hope you loved every minute of it 🙂 You are right, conversations can definitely slip through the cracks, so having ‘official’ time to get it ALL out feels good!!

  5. I LOVE this!! I’m a huge believer in hugging/kissing goodbye and sending each other love notes throughout the day!! Little ways to show love are the absolute best! I made my boyfriend take the love language test just so I could speak his language 😉 XO, Becky

    1. Thanks Becky! I agree about the hugs and kisses. I’m like this with everyone! I love that you do the love notes too. It for sure makes a difference to what could be a mundane day! The love language test sounds cool.

  6. Yes! So much truth here! I love your idea for quarterly check-ins. I think that would also help with unnecessary nagging because you know you will have time to work it out in the check-ins (unless it’s something that needs addressing right away, of course).

    1. Good point about it reducing nagging! No one likes to ‘nag’, so very true on this being a good outlet to discuss everything! Thanks for the note Kristin 🙂

  7. Jessica Moore says:

    Congrats on your anniversary! My husband and I will be married 10 years in 2019 and with three kids we have found date night to be a MUST for us to reconnect and be mindful of each other!

  8. I have to say I read through this article feeling a little skeptical – as you said, you’ve only been married for a year so what could you teach me? However, you won me over with your practical advice like planning the date nights a few months in advance so they actually have a chance of happening! I also love the suggestions for things to talk about quarterly.

    1. Hi Jo! Thanks for the feedback 🙂 True – we’ve only been married 1 year, but we’ve been living together for 5 and I became an instant (bonus)mom overnight, so I understand what it’s like to not have time for self care, dates or anything other than dedicating time to the kids! No matter how long people are in relationships, I think it’s so important to be mindful of your partners feelings and how the relationship is doing 🙂

  9. Date Night is so important!! We have one at least once a month!! Happy Anniversary!!

  10. We don’t do a check-in, but we try to date WEEKLY, and we do try to talk in a meaningful way almost every day (we don’t live in the same house. Date night doesn’t have to be expensive. Sometimes we walk on the beach or take a bike ride. But we try to do it every week, because I know from experience how couples just fall into a rut.

  11. Congratulations on your one year anniversary! I agree that making the time for these conversations is so important!

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