Do you notice that some people you work with don’t like you? They don’t seem to be your biggest fans?
Well, let me tell you something… You aren’t enough for everyone, but that’s okay!
I think many of us go through life wanting to get recognition and everyone to love us, but how do you manage when some people just aren’t into you?
Why are we so focused on certain people liking us?
We do everything in our power to help these people, be nice to them and yet, it’s still not enough. They will always look for the negative in us, even if this so-called negative quality is simply not there.
In life, we have OUR PEOPLE. People that naturally see all of the awesome gifts we have to share. Our quirky sense of humour, our great cooking skills, our big hearts and our natural ability to crack a joke even in the toughest of situations.
The qualities that certain people LOVE about you will also be the qualities that others can’t stand.
In our minds, we just can’t make sense of it.
Think about this… when you meet a new person you make a decision about what you think of them in a matter of seconds.
We trust our gut.
On the other hand, many times we meet someone and may form a negative opinion of them immediately – even if it’s subconscious.
Given that we as humans form opinions about people, we also know this happens to us every day.
Where the problem comes in is when we have to be around people that don’t love us, that don’t think we’re awesome and it’s really REALLY hard to change their perception of us.
WHERE CAN THIS BE MOST CHALLENGING?
In the workplace.
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Here are a few scenarios to think about.
My top recommendations when people don’t like you (in your workplace):
Steer Clear: If there is someone at work who clearly doesn’t love you, steer clear of them. Don’t focus on them, but surround yourself with the good people. Adding drama to your day is definitely not what you need.
You may be thinking – but what if I HAVE to work with them?!
Show ‘Em What You Got! Don’t miss a beat and be extremely accountable. Whether they love you or not, if you over deliver and before the due date, they will be happy and honestly, that’s all that matters. Second – get to know them a little better. Show interest in their job and congratulate them on wins. You’ll find that doing this will improve your relationship greatly, even if you’re not the best of friends.
But, what if my boss doesn’t think I’m awesome?
You may notice your boss is chummy with certain individuals and not you? So, what to do?
Be Professional & Insightful:
- Understand what your boss is focused on. What are their goals and challenges?
- Make their job easier by understanding their expectations of you. Don’t wait for them to ask you to do something – already have it done!
- Always raise your hand and act professionally. Show them that you want to be helpful to the greater team by helping others.
- If your boss isn’t interested in your personal life – that’s okay. Be professional all the time. It’s all about THEIR work style. You must change your habits slightly to work within their style. Plain and simple.
Other helpful tips when co-workers don’t like you:
Just work! The older we get we know we’re not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s fine. So at work – just work! Don’t get involved in drama or trying to win over those who aren’t fans. Just put your head down and focus on the task at hand and of course be AWESOME at your job.
Be mindful of Feedback: Sometimes at work, people can misinterpret our intentions. Be mindful of peer and manager feedback and if there is a theme, do your best to get rid of it!
Side Note: Have you ever heard of RBF (resting b*tch face?!) Well, I think I have it. I can be in the cheeriest of moods or perhaps I’m concentrating on something, but some may think I’m angry due to an apparent facial expression I have. So not cool!!
Now, I can’t walk everywhere with a massive smile on my face every moment of the day, but I am aware of it so I make sure if people aren’t responding to me in the right way that I crack a joke or give a compliment.Remember this: In the workplace, improving your relationships with those you struggle to connect with will improve your overall experience and directly impact your performance. #career #relationships Click To Tweet
In the workplace, improving your relationships with those you struggle to connect with will improve your overall experience and directly impact your performance.
Relationships are everything and if you can improve your relationships at a place you spend 40+ hours a week, you will be a happier you.
How do you deal with people who aren’t your biggest fans or don’t like you?
Does it stress you out or are you not bothered?
Please leave a comment below and let’s discuss.
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