Are you thinking about having a baby or trying to conceive? This is important to read!
Remember those days in school when we learned about the birds and the bees?
Or think about when you were a teenager and you thought that if you got too close to a guy you could get pregnant?!
Many people spend years trying NOT to conceive. So much time is focused on preventing pregnancy that no one ever dreams there might be an issue when they WANT to start trying for a baby.
In today’s world, we see women focusing on their career and thinking they have PLENTY of time to have a baby. We see older moms everywhere and assume that when we’re ready, we can take a few months trying and boom – pregnancy!
But what happens when it’s not that easy? What happens when pregnancy doesn’t come?
In most cases, women are not told by their doctors that the chances of conceiving dramatically reduce at the age of 35.
According to my fertility doctors and Parents.com
According to fertility doctor's, the chances of conceiving dramatically reduce at the age of 35 and take a nosedive at 38. #infertilityawareness Click To Tweet
“…35 seems to be the point where fertility declines. The most common reason is reduced egg quality, Dr. Pagidas explains. You may have plenty of eggs to work with, but they’re likely to have more chromosomal defects that affect their viability. You’re also at a little greater risk of miscarriage, a down syndrome pregnancy or an abnormal pregnancy.”
Also, according to many sources fertility takes a serious nosedive at age 38.
For all those who plan to have a baby at some point, here’s some critical information for you…
The likelihood of pregnancy by age (% per cycle):
20-25: 25%, (5-10% risk of miscarriage)
26-29: 20% (5-10% risk of miscarriage)
30-34: 15%, (20% risk of miscarriage)
35-39: 10% (25% risk of miscarriage)
40: 5% (33% risk of miscarriage)
At the age of 40 the risk of down syndrome is 1 in 82 births. This significantly increases with each year.
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I have not shared the above to scare anyone, but more to educate.
I WISH there was more education to all women about this topic, to prevent the heartache and pain that can come with trying to conceive in your late 30’s.
If we were all aware that fertility takes such a rapid decline at the age of 35, we might be able to put a little more control back in our hands.
So, TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR.
If you’re 35+ and trying to conceive, doctors and fertility clinics recommend you making an appointment if:
- You’ve been trying unsuccessfully for 6 months.
- If you’re younger they recommend you contacting them after 1 year of trying.
From my experience here are my biggest words of advice and some considerations for you or your loved ones…
THINK ABOUT FREEZING YOUR EGGS
If you are single and getting close to 35 – have you thought about freezing your eggs to try for pregnancy at a later date? This may or may not be a good idea for you, but why not educate yourself on the process. It may be the difference between having a baby in the future or not.
To get more information on this, speak with your family doctor about getting you a referral to a doctor at a local fertility clinic.
PREPARE FOR PREGNANCY AT LEAST 90 DAYS IN ADVANCE
I’m sure you know about taking prenatal vitamins, but did you know you can improve your egg quality through other supplements and diet change?
The eggs you are releasing today are actually 90 days old. This means that if you are planning to start trying to conceive you should be treating your body like a temple at least 90 days beforehand.
An extremely informative and helpful book that describes this in more detail is called ‘It Starts With The Egg’, by Rebecca Fett. This is a book my naturopaths swear by and plan detailed fertility diet recommendations from.
Related reading: Creating a Fertility Diet Plan to Help You Conceive
If you are struggling with infertility, please don’t keep it to yourself. This is SO important. It might seem hard or uncomfortable sharing your struggle, but you will find that those who love you most can be there for you.
Many people going through infertility can get severe depression and anxiety, so with any other illness, you need your loved ones close to help you get through it.
Please share this article with those who are thinking of having a baby, especially if they are in their 30’s.
If the education about infertility and the struggle to conceive in your 30’s was more commonly known, fewer women would have to go through years of trying to conceive and expensive/invasive medical procedures.
Note: The above information is from my own experience with infertility. I am by no means an official expert (although I feel like one at times!), so if you are struggling please get your doctor to put you in contact with a fertility specialist.
If you’re currently undergoing IVF or other fertility treatment, I’d like to share this journal I created with you in mind…
A thoughtful journal and planner for tracking your IVF journey
Record your entire IVF fertility treatment journey and give yourself daily love and support.
This little journal and IVF tracker was designed to help you get through a time in your life you never thought you’d be going through.
The IVF Warrior: Daily Guided Journal has been developed to help you keep track of important IVF treatment details and give you positive daily reminders to look after your overall well-being.
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Related infertility blog posts:
- Creating a Fertility Diet to Help You Conceive
- How to Live with Infertility. 6 Tips for Healing.
- The Funny Side of Infertility
- A Message to Childless Hopeful Parents
- Staying Connected in Your Relationship During Infertility