Being in a relationship can be hard, especially in today’s world where so many of us are running on empty.
Even though we are running from work to home, to making dinner, to kids basketball practice, etc, etc – we NEED to be mindful in our relationship every single day… in order to keep the spark alive. If you think you don’t have time for this, it’s even more important for you to focus on.
By no means am I a marriage counsellor, but I share with you the way I think about keeping love strong, even through tough times.
These are the THREE Relationship Goals I have for you, to Keep that Spark Alive.
1. Show Your Love
Saying I love you is important, but think about how you can mindfully show your partner that you love them. This will look different for everyone. FEELING that someone loves you can speak volumes – much louder than words.
If you’re a touchy-feely person (like myself) you may show your love through hugs, kisses and hand holding. Also, think about your spouse. How do you think they feel most loved? It could be as simple as asking them about their day and REALLY listening. It could be letting them watch a TV show that you’re just not that into, or perhaps it’s making them a beautiful dinner.
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2. Reminisce About Happy Times
I’m a bit of a nostalgic person and at times I think we all can be. Bring this to your relationship.
Share your happy memories and funny stories from when you first met. Talk about what you thought about your partner when you started dating, on your wedding day or at a dinner party a few months ago.
Sharing happy memories can show your other half how important they are in your life and it also feels good for you.
You can reminisce about your relationship as a way of practising gratitude. Here are some great examples to share with your other half:
- Think about the first time you told one another ‘I love you’.
- Tell your spouse how proud of them you were when they did (enter details here).
- Thank them for something kind they did for you recently… when they stood up for you, or when they helped you through a tough time.
- Share how you felt on your first date.
The way you share positive experiences with your spouse is deeply personal to you, so make a point of talking about the happy, funny or memorable times you’ve had in your relationship together.
3. Look for the Signs of Love in Your Relationship
You know your partner. Truly know them. Saying I love you is important, but understanding HOW your spouse shows their love to you is even more important.
This falls under the category of not taking one another for granted.
A little story… I went through a period of some deep pain and grief for a prolonged time. I just wasn’t myself and I was most likely unbearable to live with. My husband, stuck by me. No matter what, no matter my mood, he consistently showed me love. He was my shoulder to cry on and simply smiled when I was acting completely crazy! I look back and realize how hard this was for him too, but he did his best to stay strong for the two of us.
I think back to those times and am so GRATEFUL for his love through thick and thin. His patience with being there for me through trying times. This was all simply done for love.
So LOOK for their love.
Some may show love by making you dinner, being a good listener, holding your hand, sharing stories, working on projects for the house. Everyone is different and shows their love in a variety of ways.
Keep this in mind:
- What’s important is that your spouse IS showing you love.
- Understand the WAY they show their love and dedication. Let them know how much you appreciate their effort.
- If you still need your spouse to show you love in different ways, don’t discount how they are currently loving you, but communicate in a kind way what else you need.
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I think we all know that relationships aren’t always sunshine and roses. Continual work and effort need to be put in by both parties. Understanding simple ways to keep the spark alive in your relationship is so important and finding small ways to communicate to your other half that you care goes a long way towards making your spouse feel valued.
I’d love to know from you… how do you keep the spark alive in your relationship?
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