Who wants to be happy?! Right here. Me please! Are you with me?
No matter what our situation, where we are from, what we believe in or what we stand for, we want happiness. It’s the ultimate quest.
We are seeking that feeling of elation and contentment as much as possible.
The challenge: Our lives are complex, we are moving too fast and sadness can sometimes creep in and stay for a prolonged, unwelcomed visit on our sofa.
When times get tough I’m a believer that putting the right plan into place will put you in a better situation and set you up to find your happiness again.
Here are some tools I’ve used that will help you improve your happiness, even when you’re sad.
1. Identify What’s Making You Sad.
A specific event?
Months of stress?
Not looking after yourself?
Write down absolutely everything that’s making you feel sad. My hope is that the list is small, but if it is large (we’ve all been there), keep writing. Just getting your list of what’s upsetting you on paper identifies that it’s a real thing and not to be overlooked.
2. Once Identified, Acknowledge It.
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I blame myself for not feeling great. However, if you have real, legitimate sadness – let’s acknowledge it and confront it head-on. It’s not making you feel good, so you want to let it go.
Once you write down what you’re upset about, go ahead and share your list with a close loved one. Let them know that you’re sharing this as part of your healing process.
I shared a list like this with my husband and best friend and it made me feel good knowing they understood me a little more. It also felt great to get it off my chest.
3. Conquer That Sadness.
Write down 3 ways to conquer your sadness.
The goal is to help the sadness go away completely or reduce the pain of the sadness.
How you tackle this will be unique to you. Some ideas:
- See a therapist. Talk therapy can be extremely beneficial for so many people. If you haven’t tried it, I encourage you to give it a go. I understand you might be hesitant, but dedicating this time to you is so important to get to the bottom of what’s got you down and a good therapist will give you the tools to take real action.
- Remove yourself. Whether you remove yourself from a situation or away from people who get you down, this is an important step. Many times certain people or situations are triggers to our problems, so while things are extra tough, do your best to avoid.
- Take a break. Whether it’s a physical break, a mental break, a vacation… it’s however you define it. The point is it put yourself in a good place – a place that makes it hard to feel bad. Maybe it’s a yoga class, maybe it’s a big trip, maybe it’s taking a 30 minute walk every day where you listen to awesome tunes as you move.
Depending on what’s going on, you may just need a few small pick me ups. Here are some related articles that can help.
- Self Care 101. 9 Ways to Look After You
- 20 Quotes to Give You Strength When You’re Feeling Low
- Today is a Good Day! 15 Inspiring Quotes to Live in the Present
- Happiness Advice from the Kids in Our Life
4. Take Action
If you have started the 3rd step, that means you’ve written down 3 ways to conquer that sadness. Excellent!
Take your 3 ways to conquer your sadness and stick with it for a solid month. That’s right – really stick to it. After one month, take note of the following:
How do I feel?
What’s working? What’s not working?
What else would I like to try?
5. Don’t Stop This Process.
Always be aware of what makes you feel sad, upset or stressed and follow these steps as a regular self care routine.
To help you out download this FREE worksheet which has space to collect your thoughts and go through the 5 steps we’ve walked through above.
I hope this has given you some ideas to get you on the right track to open yourself up to happiness, even when there are tough times.
As always, thanks for stopping by.
*Note: I am not an expert on mental health issues, but I do enjoy sharing the techniques I personally use. I hope these tips help bring great experiences and happiness to your life.
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